I'm hoping that it warms enough to make viewing Mr. C's baseball game a bit more comfortable, though. It will be the first one this season that I have seen. Between rain-outs and lack of communication on his part, I've missed a lot of action. For some reason, he wasn't telling me when he had a game and I decided not to push it. My hunch is that he was unhappy with how he was playing and waited to have me there until he loosened up a bit. Poor guy, I wish he didn't wrap so much of his personal identity up in his ability to play!Miss A continues to be stubborn and angry with me. I find it almost peaceful, since she refuses to talk to me. Sounds horrid of me, I know, but typically she nips at me and everyone else all day long. The peace is refreshing, even though you could cut the tension with a butter knife :-P
I spent most yesterday on the phone with the DCFS Family Reconciliation Service Agency, our Psych office, pediatric doctors office, friends that have friends that might be able to help, Kitsap Mental Health....ie-gathering information and resources and trying to put together a plan that will help us have a workable scenario for keeping Miss A home. Like a dog in the garden, I'm digging like crazy to find that hidden bone- a perfect plan that we can grab onto that allows her to remain at home without sacrificing the peace and safety of everyone else in the process. I caught a few sniffs of possible options yesterday, but will need to follow up today. Ir sounds like Group Health may help pay for outside help if they can agree upon a treatment plan with the "outside" provider. This was wonderful news! We really like the Psychiatrist that she has, but treatment has focused primarily on stabilizing her Psychosis with meds and not dealing with the underlying issues or on her behavioral problems.
A workable plan might be one that includes emergency respite care for when she has an "episode" and behavioral therapy/management and treatment for her underlying PTSD. It needs to be with someone who isn't easily manipulated or ensnared by her charms into believing that she's fine, which is what we have struggled with in the past.
So all this = more calls today.
David and I were able to get out for a bit together after the kids went to bed. Living with all this tension has taken its toll on our relationship. Our unshakable unity has always been a source of strength and comfort to both of us in the past. Lately, we find ourselves questioning the other persons tactics or motives in dealing with the children. Its sad how quickly that shakes the foundation of a marriage, thus the family. Living with people who are unstable mentally, creates an atmosphere of instability that taints how everyone thinks. You can't trust your own feeling or anyone else's. No one behaves rationally because they are functioning from a place of fear. One fear that may be helpful for us is the fear of NOT being unified. We are so afraid of having to parent alone that we will do whatever it takes to keep our marriage together and stay unified. I say that with a little smirk on my face, but really, its true.
Our was fun, coupon shopping at Rite Aid and Albertsons! Its become sort of a hobby with us to hunt down the best bargains combining sales with coupons. Toting our "coupon binder" in which we've collected and carefully filed away coupons from the Sunday papers, we head out to the stores with the best advertised deals on products we use. Our big wins last night were- 10 boxes of cereal for $1.25 each, a Venus razor for $2.00 (normally $11), 5 boxes of granola bars for around $1.35 each and Purex laundry detergent, 46 loads for $1.99 each. In the end, we spent around $60 and saved close to $100, plus got $9 off our next shopping trip. Love it! David is like a kid in a candy shop when we find a good deal -so cute! We make it a little competition to see who can find the best deals, high fives and fist pounding to whoever discovers one. Great fun!
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